Thought for the day

Thought for the day…To be loved and accepted the way we are, isn’t that what we all want?
Today I watched as a child struggled with wanting to be loved. They try so hard! The problem is that they don’t know how to seek out safe love. They don’t have social skills and have not clue what to do once they are loved and accepted. While they struggled with social skills and ended up pushing others away, I am left with the feeling that they just want what we all do, to be loved and accepted just the way we are.
The trouble is that they do not have the skills to meet their need. This child is unable to see it, experience it or to show love and acceptance. This is not their fault, it is their trauma’s fault. But here I am and guess what? I want the same thing. I want those around me to love and accept me.
So often we look at those that come to us and see the differences, we forget that we likely all want the same things. We are all searching for love and acceptance. The difference is that we can make healthy choices while seeking it and our children cannot.
We are all different, but we are also very much the same. We are all searching for the same love and acceptance. We all want friends, family and togetherness. The difference is that many of our children just lack the ability to see it, experience it or show it. If we understood this, it just might help us to offer them the acceptance and empathy they really need.

Reviews on Compassion Fatigue

Just had some fantastic reviews from our recent Zoom course on Compassion Fatigue, 100% said training was relevant to their needs and that the content was well prepared and engaging.

Here’s some quotes:

“Really enjoyed the course.”

“Well delivered, the right pace and attendees encouraged to participate. Theory incorporated into foster carer practice and therapeutic parenting strategies.”

“An excellent training session. Really informative & interesting.”

“I think it could be a good pick me up. If needed. Let’s people see their self-worth.”

“This was a voluntary training and I am so glad I attended as I’ve learnt so much about Compassion Fatigue.”

Exciting News!

Watch this space! Creating some new training for foster parents! We currently have Therapeutic Parenting, PACE, compassion fatigue…hoping to roll out a new one! Not giving it away until its finished! Can’t wait as it is exciting and new!

Thought for the day

Thought for the day…The sun is out and there is hope! We have a vaccine and the rules are changing. We can get out and enjoy the company of others! I know that this makes my heart lighter and I am smiling a bit more…I can see the light at the end of the tunnel!
Todays thought is just to say “hey enjoy this!”. As we slowly open up, as the sun starts shining more and we get out to see our friends and family, enjoy every minute! If you can…smile more…laugh more…and just enjoy every minute that you can.
I love that things are getting slowly better. We have an opportunity for some real self care and some empathy from friends…so grab on to this amazing weather…share it with your friends and smile today. You deserve it!

#49 Changes

Our children have had many changes to deal with over the last year. This short video gives information on what you can do to help the children in your care adapt to the changes happening around them. Please subscribe and like our videos.


Thought for the day

Thought for the day…seeing is important! I know, you would think that being able to use all of our senses if a given, but recently I was reminded how difficult things are when one of your senses just doesn’t work right.
I got new glasses, only after getting them I kept seeing double. My reading was fuzzy and they just didn’t work for anything close up. My distance was fine, but my reading was not! This inability to see clearly, to read properly really frustrated me. I struggled every time I put on my glasses. Of course I am able to know it can be fixed and made an appointment to get them adjusted, but our children aren’t able to just get their senses “fixed”.
Many of our children struggle with how they see, hear, feel, or taste. They struggle with things like holding a pencil or tolerating a new food. So many things make them frustrated. They are also often unable to tell us what is causing the frustration. So, what do we do?
We wonder aloud about what might be causing the problem. We watch and pay attention to what may be causing their frustration and struggle. It is up to us as the carer/parent to do the investigating and to do what we can to try and alleviate the issue.
My fix is generally easy, I need to go in and have my glasses adjusted. Their fix may mean cutting all the tags off their shirts or eating mostly mashed up foods.
Look at your children when they are struggling and consider whether or not it could be something they are seeing, hearing, touching or tasting that is causing the problem, it may just be a quick fix that can alleviate their pain and struggle.

#48 Food Issues

Most of the children in our care have one food issue or another, whether it’s not eating or eating too much or being picky.  Cara looks at how you can deal with this and what may cause it.